Friday, January 15, 2010

manic episodes on the post post proust goals find

It shouldn't be a secret I don't like making resolutions. I marginally like making plans, so the idea of making a promise to myself that I'm supposed to adhere to on the passing of an arbitrary calendar date has never fueled my inspirational fire. Frankly, my moods/desires are based more moment-by-moment, much like a certain person acknowledges a hunger and sates it with, say, mcdonalds. Sadly, yes, mcdonalds.

But I have a goal today. And I might succeed with it. As some have seen, I've picked up the reading yen since living on subway lines, and, having spent my waking subway hours chasing John Banville with Saul Bellow, I've decided to go to their bastard, three-way love child with Jose Saramago: John Gardner.

I knoww, this will sound odd. I don't like American authors. In fact, the cult of narcissism being the only real legacy of the great (small 'g' intentional) authors from the 60s and 70s, I have no real lust for them. But for anybody who has ever taken a writing course, Gardner is a ghost that must be dealt with. Why? He wrote probably the best how-to books on what a novel, what a story, is. And, thoughts on Grendel aside, he represents something apart from it. Frankly, that represents the last novel I read that just gave me absolute, unequivocal joy. But his books are impossible to find.

So now, my quest, and I do choose to accept it, is to find him. One of his books (not Grendel). Any one.

But first, I shower. And maybe pick up some socks.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

2009, redux (in a pit of sausage, cheap chianti and, frankly, some of the stuff they put in fast food soda)

I've let the year sit now. Settle. Die, rest, subside, subdue. And so my emotions for the year -- and frankly, the decade -- will not be nearly as descriptive and entertaining as probably should be. For a blog. For, what this genre is, a mock-memoir.

But really, how does one start this? The biggest thing, the happiest thing, is that I finally left San Francisco. No offense to the people back there but it was a bad fit, akin to hiring the bubble boy for a sanatorium. And when does this start?

2002, and a possible transfer. I was getting tired of what I was doing in the place I was at and was seeing someone long-distance in Maryland. There was an opening in the Boston office. Succinctly, with little ado save for the emails that met me between when I sent the inquiry (not request) to when I got into work, the thing was shot down. Not to dwell, but the seeds were planted.

Now, I'm not going to talk too much about myself. I love myself, but I understand that such vanity has led to my hopeless, quashed ambitions and desires. I have a healthy understanding of that. And yes, this is a blog and I understand that and I will work to not make this too antithetical to the nature of blogs, but I can't make this about me me me me me. That should have been in italics. I fail.

Long story in short-form: I leave the company, test life possibilities, have a nightmare roommate that makes me sleep with a knife under my pillow, rejoin to transfer, get side-tracked by authority. There should also be a capital 'A.'I fail again.

Fast-forward to 2009. The transfer happens which, considering the creative differences that have rended the cohesion of the supe-staff, I let happen. It feels early. It was probably just right.

And now I ask the question: how damaging do I want to be on this? To myself, I mean. It's a blog, but, for the feeling of inprivacy with these. People will read this. I can't help it or control it. And really, how intense were the emotions towards the end? Or at least, reliably, trustworthy, soundly and foolproof...ly? I can't be certain.

I'm going to make this short, to save face. 2009 essentials: I get strep. I discover Love and Beauty (damaged as it is). I lose great friends and get strep again. Realizing the baggage and being pragmatic, Love and Beauty leaves. Gets relegated to Like and Fetching, but there's still hurt. In a fit of redemption (small 'r'), I reconnect with great friends. Damage is still done. In my fit of trying to connect, as one last hurrah, the move-out is a disaster, it's too early and I'm not ready. I feed crack habits on the last day of my existence on the west coast, so much dumping on the streets of the Tenderloin. Move. Rain. Pleasant Rain. Hills & Hastings. New office, same job. Different clients, job no longer the same. Move again, midnight. Survive and survive and survive and survive.

To be frank, it's not been a bad year. Yes, I'm essentially in the spot I was ten years ago, when the fateful decision came down between New York and San Francisco, and I chose San Francisco, what with being close to family and all. Transposed ten years later, the decision seems fraught. The family was ultimately a non-starter. The community was sorely lacking (again, this is not meant against friends, but the town of SF needs a good editor, and the ability to accept one).

Hairline receding, hypertensive, I can now say this: The year, the years, have left me with a new start with perspective. Twenty-ten. The new environs, it's the seriousness, man. People give a shit. They get their emotions into things banal trite cold but it's an honesty, a respect. I'm working on it, goddammit. I will be here.

A friend told me this place will give you energy, but will feed off your energy as well. I haven't gotten the feed yet.

But the stimulus is still sinking in. Maybe with perspective and the survive I'll do something. If not, at least I have seasons.